Detecting Lies P2 – Looking for signs

Posted: October 21, 2009 in Mentalism

In the last blog I spoke about the importance of discovering a baseline. Now this is where the trickier stuff comes in, there is no single tell tell sign that someone is lieing, even if they do something which is different from their baseline it does not mean they’re lieing. Its probably best that you don’t accuse someone of lieing based on a single thing either, since if they are telling the truth they’ll probably be quite offended (If they do get offended, then they were probably telling the truth, although if they get defensive then chances are you were right, and they were lieing after all)

Most people think that when someone lies, they make little or no contact, this is actually a myth, and infact someone who is lieing will probably rarely break eye contact, because they’ll be trying to convince you that they are telling the truth, although this doesn’t apply to everyone, which leads me back to the baseline, if they usually make eye contact but break it every now and again during a conversation, and then suddenly they’re looking into your eyes and not breaking eye contact, then this could mean they’re lieing about something.

When someone is lieing, they’ll usually want to change the conversation fairly quickly, and the tone of their voice may go up very slightly.

If you want to become good at telling when people are lieing then I suggest you look up and research NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) NLP suggests that when a person looks to the left, they are recalling a memory and remembering something that happened, this usually suggests that they are telling the truth, but when a person looks to the right, they are constructing an image in their mind and thinking of something to say, this can suggest lieing. Of course if someone is left handed then this is completely reversed so it can get a little confusing.

Another thing to look out for is the micro-expression for doubt, this occurs around the lip area, when someone finishes talking if they press their lips together and rise them slightly, this is a sign of doubt which could mean they do not believe a word they have just said, but once again look at the baseline, do they usually do this after talking? If not, it could be a sign of deception.

Like I said above, no one thing can mean a person is lieing, but when you have a group of signals that could indicate deception then the chance that they’re lieing greatly increases.

When you’re talking to someone, do they seem anxious? do they tap their feet or fingers against something? Remember their baseline when you was asking them simple questions, did they tap their fingers or feet? People usually do this when they’re feeling uncomfortable, so if someone is sitting perfectly still and then you ask them something, and they suddenly become slightly more fidgety, this is another sign that they’re lieing.

Another thing to watch for is rapid blinking, when people lie we tend to blind far more often than usual, although this doesn’t mean they are lieing, it can often indicate that they’re hiding something.

If you see some of these signs together, then dig deeper into the subject, ask more questions, after talking about it for a while ask them a question you’d already asked them and say you had forgotten what they said, if they’re telling the truth they’ll be able to tell you pretty much exactly the same as before, but if they’re lieing it might take them a little longer to try and remember what they had said, or they might just tell you something completely different. You could even try getting them to tell you it backwards, its easy to make up a lie when telling it in order, but if you reverse it they’ll have a lot more trouble telling it to you unless they were being honest.

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