Manipulating Someone To Like You

Posted: March 19, 2010 in Mentalism

These two are standing exactly the same during a conversation. This is what we call Mirroring.

Manipulation is something that can easily be done, and when done right can be very useful in getting people to instantly like you and eventually, do what you want.

Today I’m going to talk about manipulating someone into instantly taking a liking to you. Obviously this doesn’t work 100% of the time but with the simple techniques discussed below, the chances of someone liking you will be greatly increased.


Mirroring is when you copy someones body language, for example if someone scratches their nose, you scratch your nose a couple of minutes later, you stand the same way as them, basically you’re trying to become their reflection. Mirroring happens automatically when two people are enjoying each others company and conversations, its a sub-concious cue to show the other person that you’re interested in what they’re saying and shows that you like them. Studies have shown that consciously mirroring someones facial expressions, body movements and posture draws them in and makes them more interested in you.

Compliment Them

When you compliment someone it usually makes them feel more comfortable, and happier to be around you. When you compliment someone make sure you compliment them on a specific thing and ask about it. For example if they’re wearing a particular necklace or other piece of jewellery, tell them it looks nice on them and then enquire more about it. This not only makes the person feel you’re interested about them, but it also makes them feel good about themselves, which is key.

Listen to Them

Show them that you’re listening to what they’re saying, ask questions about the topic you’re talking about and speak mainly about them rather than yourself. Everyone loves to be in a conversation where they’re talking about themselves, so make sure you nod and agree with them every now and again, and allow them to finish talking before you speak. They’re much more likely to warm to you if they see that you’re a great listener.

Make Eye Contact

Making eye contact is more powerful than you’d imagine, if you look into someones eyes whilst they’re talking it shows them that you’re listening, and looking into their eyes while you’re talking tells them that you’re being sincere which in tern, will help them warm to you. Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP is something that is very powerful, and it will be something that i’ll cover in next articles.

Touching Them

Although this may not work in some circumstances, touching someones arm can have a huge affect on someone. Touching them whilst you talk helps make you come across more sincere and friendly, and many people will warm to someone like this. While shaking hands you should use your free hand to touch someones elbow for a maximum of 3 seconds, this is a great technique and will again make them warm to you, which can be used as an advantage later on. You should use caution using this particular technique, certain people do not like to be touched, and they may come away feeling strange and feeling like they don’t want to be around you anymore. If you do use this technique, only touch them once or twice during the conversation.


Smiling puts people at ease and shows that you’re not angry or annoyed, smiling often makes other people smile which will help keep the conversation light, whilst at the same time allowing them to warm to you more efficiently.

  1. there’s a spelling error in this… there’s tern instead of
    turn… But apart from that the whole article was explained pretty

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  3. y do u care says:

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  4. Fallingbrook says:

    Thanks, this helped alot!

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