Archive for the ‘Mentalism’ Category

Thank You!

Posted: March 5, 2012 in Mentalism

Hi everyone,

I’d just like to say a big thank you to everyone who has commented and the fact that this blog is still getting some fairly high visitor stats I’m incredibly thank you! Unfortunately due to being very busy with other things in my life at the moment I haven’t had enough time to be able to blog like I used to, hopefully I’ll be able to get back to blogging in the near future!

In the meantime, there are plenty of articles on this Blog that you can read to hopefully improve or at least understand Mentalism in a little more detail! Again, a huge thank you to everyone!

Twitter and Facebook Us

Posted: June 15, 2010 in Mentalism

Twitter and Facebook are fast growing social networking sites with millions of users everyday. If you’d like to keep up to date with the latest blog articles, why not follow us on Twitter and join our Facebook group? You can do this by clicking on the images below.

By following us on Twitter you’ll be able to see the very latest blog articles directly onto your news feed. If you’re a follower of this blog and you’d like to know when new articles have been posted, this will be ideal for you.

By joining our Facebook group you’ll be able to discuss new articles, give ideas for future articles on something that you’re interested in, or simply talk about topics that you’ve seen in the news that you think might be of interest to fellow body language readers.

Who Stole My Mobile?

Posted: June 13, 2010 in Mentalism

Picture the scene, you’re in the work place and you discover your mobile phone has gone missing, you try ringing it but it’s been turned off. You know it has to be someone within the office so you go around asking people if they have seen your phone. Everyone says no without any suspicion, but then you ask Malcolm, who says no whilst gently tapping his trouser pocket. Chances are, he has your mobile phone. When someone is hiding something and feels nervous about it, they may tap it subconsciously in an attempt to feel less nervous. So if you see someone exhibiting this behaviour, then chances are they may have the missing item, particularly if they don’t usually tap their pocket whilst they’re talking.

If you ever find yourself in a situation where something has gone missing, look around to see how people are reacting to it, someone going over the top in trying to find that missing object? When I was in primary school i remember stealing my friends pen because I used to like the way it wrote, kids do strange things. Anyway, when she realized the pen was missing from her try, she told me and I instantly began looking around anywhere it could be, I probably went way over the top in trying to find something that I knew I had in my pocket. So if you see someone displaying this type of behaviour immediately after an item has gone missing, then they may have something to hide.

It’s amazing what people will give away when they’re trying to hide something. Again, imagine your mobile phone has gone missing and you’re going around talking to people about it, you know someone within the office must have it, you’re at the water cooler talking to someone about it and they’re acting a little off, they keep looking over towards their desk, unless they usually do this as their baseline, then they could be feeling nervous because they have your mobile phone. When someone is nervous they give off a lot of information subconsciously, so if you suspect someone, try making them nervous without offending them to see if you can get a better read.

Everything talked about above does not conclusively tell you if someone has stolen an item of yours. However if you are in a situation and someone is showing one or more of the above, then they may be hiding something and you should try and dig a little deeper to find out what that could be.

If you’ve recently been hurt in some way, or there’s something bothering you that just doesn’t seem to go away, then this may be of some help to you. I’m not saying that this is a long term fix, nor am I saying that it’ll work for everybody, but why not give it a try? You never know, it could help you.

When you’re laying in bed, struggling to fall asleep because all you can think about is this certain thing thats been playing on your mind for days, I want you to focus only on whatever it maybe that’s bothering you. Notice how your breathing changes, notice how your heart rate may increase and more importantly notice how you feel inside, do you feel sad? Angry? etc.. just focus on what you’re feeling at that very moment in time.

Continue to think about whatever is affecting you and just let the emotion take over for a couple of minutes, stay laying in your bed and resist the temptation to get up and punch something, if the emotion you’re feeling is anger. If you’re feeling sadness and begin to cry, then just cry, let it all out and continue to take note of how you’re feeling. This is the hardest step to take because sometimes emotion can be overwhelming, but you only need to do this for a couple of minutes.

Once the emotion has completely taken over for a couple of minutes and you’ve recognised the emotion that you are feeling, then it’s time to imagine a box. It doesn’t matter how big that box is or what it looks like, that’s completely up to you, just imagine a box floating above your bed. I then want you to imagine all those feelings, and thoughts you’ve just experienced being put into that box followed by the lid closing, and then imagine placing that box away.

Doing the above is a way of going through that emotion, which is an important step to healing, and it also allows you to put those emotions and thoughts away to enable you to get a good nights sleep. This technique may take some practice before it begins to work efficiently, or it may work straight away. Even if you don’t believe that it’ll work, give it a go, it might just help you.

Mirroring Through Text

Posted: May 16, 2010 in Mentalism

So we’ve discussed how you can mirror someone in person to build rapport with them allowing them to feel more comfortable around you. But what happens when you’ve exchanged numbers and gone your separate ways? Can you continue to mirror someone through texting on a mobile phone or talking to someone over the phone to continually ensure that they’ll feel comfortable speaking to you?

The answer is yes, yes you can. I’ve recently discovered this by trial and error, I came across mirroring through text accidentally. I was texting someone I haven’t really spoken to before and decided to see what would happen if I copied the smilies they used, particular words they used and the number of kisses they put after each text. I set out to try and mirror each text that they sent, and I found that after just a very short while, they were willing to tell me information about themselves which they probably wouldn’t have told me, had they felt uncomfortable talking to me. So next time you’re texting someone, try using the same smilies they use, and similar wording to build rapport.

Talking on the phone is very similar, but you can build rapport on a more deeper, conversational level. When you’re talking to someone on the phone then usually you’re able to hear them breathing, try matching their breathing by consciously breathing in and out the same time that they do. When we’re talking to a friend face to face we’re subconsciously mirroring their body language movements, breathing patterns and speech tones. So if they’re talking over the phone in a soft, quiet voice, then you should do the same.

Doing this will allow someone to feel far more comfortable talking to you, and mirroring is a great way to build rapport, and indeed, help friendship flourish.

Changes To The Blog

Posted: May 15, 2010 in Mentalism

If you’re someone who follows this blog, then you’ll be aware of some of the changes I’ve made. The old theme was nice, but to catch up with the times and keep the blog improving, I have decided to put up a new theme to improve the general layout, ease of use and to refresh the blog.

I’ve added a weather page, however since doing that I have decided to create a sister weather blog, instead of mixing Mentalism and Weather onto one single blog. The sister blog can be viewed by clicking on the link below. The Weather page will be removed later this week.

http://ukweather.wordpress.com/

If you have any questions or comments about the new blog layout, or about Mentalism in general then please feel free to comment and ask. If you’d like to learn a certain trick, or you’d like to know more information about something that has, or hasn’t already been featured on my blog, then please feel free to comment and I’ll be happy to write an article explaining what you’d like to know.

It’s been a while since my last blog upload, I’ve been a little busy recently so I haven’t really had time to blog. This morning I got to thinking, what makes cold reading so effective? Why do people seem to simply accept the vague statements that cold readers give? Such as

“You enjoy going out and hanging with friends, but at the same time, you do like to spend some alone time”

Everyone enjoys going out, and just about everyone enjoys some alone time and time to relax, but if you say this statement to someone, chances are, they’ll be surprised how you knew that. The truth is, people like to talk about themselves and people like to hear someone else talking about them, so if you say something like that, they’ll make it fit because you’re talking about them.

A negative cold read is much more likely to fail, for example, if you say something along the lines of

“You enjoy other peoples misery and you enjoy putting people down to feel better about yourself”

People do not like being put down, so a negative cold read has a much higher chance of failing, unless of course they’re proud of the negative, and bad things that they do.

So next time you’re giving someone you don’t know a cold read, try and keep it light hearted and positive, otherwise you’re likely to offend someone and the reading will end badly.